When someone does something that you think is “Just so mean” it is your perceptions and label you are attaching to the situation.
Many times we react to what is perceptively a “negative” situation in what we think is a justified retaliation of negativity in return. The reality is that anytime we allow feelings of lack, feelings of fear, feelings of hurt, feelings of anger, and so on, we are literally poisoning every cell in our body! All of the hormones, neurotransmitters, and other body chemicals ALWAYS match the emotions you are allowing.
Any negative perception is poisoning not just the body, but the mind, and spirit as well. Unforgiveness is withholding some of your light and love from your being to that person, and is literally like drinking poison hoping the other person will suffer.
Realize that everything you thought was so terrible in your past does not determine who you are NOW. You are not the sum total of all the crappy things that have happened to you. You are who you want to be NOW! You should write the question, “WHO DO I WANT TO BE NOW?” on a piece of paper and tape it to your mirrors, on the refrigerator door, and on your computer screensaver.
By your own understanding and utilization of these universal truths you become your greatest advocate and healer of your own health. Realize that if you are sick already with cancer or truly any illness, that you are always either poisoning your entire system or you are applying healing ointment to your system through purposely and consciously building your ability to shift your head and your heart to see only joy, peace, and sufficiency of all things.
“That is so Nice!”